I’m just gonna leave this here in case it changes somebody’s life: https://medium.com/the-identity-current/plight-of-the-transbian-4ab1a048b09b
This was a sweet, wonderful read, thank you
I am a happily being a guy but I identified with Samuel in that story more than I ever would have guessed would have been possible. I have always been jealous of how easy it is for women to make friends and how tender their friendship are. I have never gotten along with macho guys and multiple times in my life people thought I was gay (I am only attracted to women, I just want tender friendships like women have with each other)…
Welcome to the internet
Have a look around…
anything that brain of yours can think of can be found…
We’ve got mountains of content
Some better, some worse
But none of it is interesting to me
And you’re the first!
As we used to say, “MMORPG means Many Men Online Role-playing Girls”.
Which has went in a couple different directions, looking back.
Ah, the Internet. A place where the men are men, the women are men, and the children are FBI agents.
And the moderators have beards. Women too
And the moderators have beards.
Bold of you to assume that moderators are married.
GIRL is also an acronym for Guy In Real Life.
I can remember the Yahoo chat rooms of the 90’s. It’s always been doods cybering lesbian sex with each other.
Scissor me xerces
There are no girls on the internet
The Internet: Where men are men, women are men and the children are FBI agents.
We’ve always been trans-inclusive.
I genuinely wonder whether generation of people who played female avatars in MMOs to get free stuff has put the seed of TERFdom and assorted other anti-trans stereotypes into a generation of people’s brains.
Nah. transpanic jokes are way older then that. The reveal at the end of the first Ace Ventura movie is an example of that. Good thing the second movie is way better.
If anything, guys playing as girls in MMOs would have softened the idea of trans people to a lot of people who would have never thought much about it.
On the internet, anyone who claims to be a woman is really a man. Anyone who claims to be a man is really a child. Anyone who claims to be a child is really an FBI agent.
Girl is internet acronym for Guy In Real Life
Expected this to be higher on urban dictionary, it’s on the end of 2nd page.
Pretending to be a girl for free handouts in MMOs was peak metagaming.
I had a friend get a fucking voice changer just to keep the lies going when he did that in D&Donline. It still irritates me that it actually worked. Dude was rolling in gifts and invites.
And then there’s us that pretended to be a girl in MMOs not for handouts, but because it turns out we’re trans
I feel like there are so many dudes who’d fall in love if only both parties were women, and that’s beautiful…
Why is that beautiful? Sounds pretty obvious to me. If some of my dude friends were actually women, I’d love to be in a relationship with them. They’re cool dudes.
All the straight boys you know have probably at some poiot been devastated to remember they are tecnnically not lesbians, because dick.
Seriously though
The feminine (and, by extension, lesbian) is constantly portrayed in such a sweet and gentle way and masculine us always so rough that I can’t help but say “lesbian relationships to me, please”
And I’m a guy.
Where tf did we lose those cute gentle hetero relationships and representation? Okay there’s GFD, but barely anyone notices it and it’s strictly about women taking the lead and mostly sexual, which is only one side of the story.
I had someone tell me “He/Him Lesbians” were a thing recently and they weren’t referring to FTM Transguys either (Which I was relieved by as that would be a horribly offensive thing to call that crowd since a lesbian is a woman who exclusively is attracted to other women, and FTMs are NOT women.) Somedays I just don’t know if I’m getting too old and set in my ways or if the world has just lost the plot.
These days I just kinda “nod” at things and go along with them even if I don’t agree or understand, within reason of course. (i’m not going to let anyone take fucking dieting advice from a breatharian)
Unpopular opinion : once you start blurring the lines of what gender is, the straightness based definitions of things go out the window.
An FTM and MTF relationship is something alright. None of my business.
but, linguistically speaking, I don’t think straight as a label applies to it, even though it’s male + female.
it ties into the difference between someone being pansexual, and bisexual.
he/him lesbians is largely a historical teem referring to lesbians in the 1980s scene who would identify as (typically butch) women but go by he/him pronouns (see stone butch blues)
(but it’s old enough that some people have rediscovered it)
How did it end? Did they date then?
yes and they’re lesbians now
Can someone explain why men do this? It takes me just a few messages to figure it out most of the time. What’s the motivation?
There are a few reasons I can think off:
- Trick people;
- Get items;
eggExperimenting the thought of not being your current gender.
But just like the anon described, it’s one of the first two.
just to get items
also some minor mental illnesses but we don’t talk about that
also some minor mental illnesses
I don’t like to call it “mental illnesses” because it makes it look like it’s a property of the person; however, it is a property of society:
honestly when i was a kid i always picked male characters (despite being afab) because “the clothes looked better”, fast forward a couple of years, i transitioned to male and i realised i used video games as my main escape from worsening gender dysphoria
I knew a guy who used that exact same reasoning to play female characters. It’s funny how the way you want to look in a videogame can sort of tap into subconscious desires sometimes.
“Obviously I couldn’t dress like that IRL because of gender rules, but since I can choose my gender in this game…”
It’s sort of like The Button thought experiment.
same as an amab I always used to play women cause they got better clothes. I am not trans tho, I mean probably not.
Eventually they’ll both think a little more deeply about why they “”“pretended”“” to be girls online. 🤔 😊
Name checks out
Loneliness
I’m sure that’s all it is. 😉
