Having removed metadata and with nothing recognizable in the pic.
The only opinion that matters here is your partner’s.
That’s a decision you have to make along with your partner(s).
That’s my take. If your partner is aware and doesn’t mind there’s nothing wrong with it. If you’re doing it behind their back, that’s a big issue, in more ways than one.
Cheating is when you do something that betrays your partners trust.
I couldn’t care less if my partners post nudes, anonymous or otherwise, so it wouldn’t be cheating for me.
Other people feel differently, and so it could be cheating for them.
I also agree.
While I couldn’t care less (it’s their body and bodily autonomy is super important to me), I’d be a little hurt if they didn’t tell me about it.
In that case I’d be more interested in talking to my partner to try and understand why they felt that they couldn’t talk to me about it and needed to keep it a secret.
I don’t think that’s true. Its not cheating if you steal a bunch of money from your partner’s bank account by pretending to fall for a scam and hiding the money in some swiss account.
It’s a fucked up thing to do, but it’s not “cheating on your partner”.
maybe look up the definition of cheating
Agreed. Cheating in a relationship does not have the same definition as cheating in other contexts.
Infidelity (synonyms include cheating, straying, adultery, being unfaithful, two-timing, or having an affair) is a violation of a couple’s emotional and/or sexual exclusivity that commonly results in feelings of anger, sexual jealousy, and rivalry.
I think what’s important here is discussing it with your partner because it is a form of sex work.
That’s absolutely your decision and your right, it’s your body - but your partner should get to choose whether they want to date someone who is doing that.
Having removed metadata and with nothing recognizable in the pic.
Not really relevant, that’s like saying ordinary cheating isn’t cheating if you wear a good disguise.
that’s like saying ordinary cheating isn’t cheating if you wear a good disguise
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Let’s say you wear a teddy bear suit, would that be cheating…?
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Or using a glory hole.
Oooo I think the analogy is a Little off. Just because of the way I interpreted why they said that in the first place.
I think it was said because they are expressing that the nudes are as impersonal as possible, not to say look I deidentified myself. In my case (if I’m right, maybe I’m not) it’s a good faith argument to say see, I’m not trying to connect with someone I’m trying to have a business transaction, so comparing it to what wearing a disguise accomplishes in cheating isnt accurate.
Again, that’s only based on my interpretation of why op added that bit
Someone is free to only date people who don’t do office work, but its their job to communicate that requirement and what they’d consider crossing that line. You shouldn’t be expected to consult your partner before filling out some paperwork at work and there shouldn’t be some societal-wide expectation that you would inform them of the work.
When I get deeply emotionally attached to my data analyst, I might care if they’re moonlighting on the side. Sex, work or not, is still an emotional topic for most of the human race and it’s not new knowledge to anyone.
Enough that it would not naturally occur to me that “please do not engage in prostitution while we’re together” needs to be said out loud. I will casually ask if you’re monogamous and if you say yes, that’s how monogamy works.
Even aside from that, yeah, tbh, I would consider it good form to let your partner know you’re considering a new job regardless, just so they generally know what’s going on. If you have to hide it, maybe something is wrong.
I personally would not date someone who is employed by the US military.
If a partner hid that from me, it would be a breach of trust.
If you’re in a relationship with someone that cares that deeply about office work, and you don’t have the first inkling that they do, you have significant communication problems that need to be addressed.
More realistically, you’d know enough about your partner to know that it might be an issue for them, in which case, not knowing what their boundaries are, but knowing you’re at risk of crossing them, you’d communicate with them.
Whether something, anything, is considered “cheating”, is based on whatever the two people in a relationship agree shall be considered cheating. It’s their relationship, their rules. An oral contract (pun intended).
If you have enough thoughts wondering if it is wrong, it probably is. Communication is key in a relationship. If they are cool with it, then do your thing. If you’re too afraid to tell them then you already know the answer.
It’s cheating and the fact that you are asking shows you know it is.
I think the fact they’re asking shows they’re not sure.
But also, one should be sure what your partner constitutes as cheating before engaging in said action, yeah.
My wife and I do not see the selling of nudes as cheating (unless non-consent to the nudes or the distribution, then it’s a lot of levels of gross) but others might disagree.
I’d be concerned if my partner hid a job from me.
Posting nudes is not cheating. Not telling your partner you’re posting nudes is cheating.
Send them to me and I’ll tell you if it’s cheating
Warning: I’m a dude
Then show the picture to GPT-4 and ask it to describe its contents in a thousand words.
And post that text here, and we’re read it and we’ll judge whether it’s cheating material or just a fappable comment.
Don’t kinkshame
Given data is irrelevant to the question. Anonymous or not, it depends on what your partner thinks about this. And if you don’t want your partner to know, then you already know the answer.
Nah not cheating but definitely something that should be discussed in a relationship.
No because I define cheating as sex with a non partner without the partner’s knowledge or permission.
But it still ain’t great and should absolutely be discussed with them. Hiding shit like that never works out and it will just damage or destroy trust when they find out.
You can emotionally cheat on people as much as physically cheat.
This depends entirely on what boundaries you have set in your relationship(s), and whether the person who is doing the sex work is open about it with the other partner(s)
Example 1: Relationship is established as monogamous, person is open about performing sex work and is not doing things behind their partner’s back/trying to hide it, and both parties are satisfied that it falls within the boundaries they’ve set in their relationship - not cheating!
Example 2: Relationship is established as polyamorous, people involved have several partners and metamours. Person doing the sex work is not open with one or more of their partners about it, tries to hide it or do it behind people’s backs, or does so despite it being outside of the boundaries set with one or more of their partners - cheating!
As with the vast majority of things in this vein, it’s all about the individuals involved.
No but if your partner feels the need to hide this from you it’s a good moment for reflection