As the titled mentioned, is there anything that we should do to avoid undesirable life consequences?
Don’t break more than one law at a time
AKA - Don’t be stupid while you’re being stupid.
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One thing that comes to mind is, avoid applying and following every rule to the extreme.
Like how you did here with rule 1 😂
Save first.
Always have backups
For your spouse and children
3-2-1
3 copies of data
2 different storage medium
1 set of data at an off-site location
Commonly refered by the sailors as “one spouse in each port”
Way to just stereotype my profession… Even though it’s true with some guys! Hahaha
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If you have an offsite copy of your files (and not in a sync service like Dropbox) you are already in a better position than most.
Restoring from offsite takes time, even with Backblaze’s option of shipping a hard disk. You may also have data corruption troubles, companies may close all of sudden. It’s just not as convenient as local copies.
A further copy that is locally available is simply a better strategy. Adding more copies after these two is not a bad idea but you start getting hit by the law of diminishing returns.
You can actually read more about the 3-2-1 rule in a Backblaze post: https://www.backblaze.com/blog/the-3-2-1-backup-strategy/
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If you feel in your gut that she’s not the one, you have to trust that feeling. Going into a marriage you know is going to leave a part of your soul behind, reasoning that you’ll just give it a chance for a few years, that’s lost time. It never comes back.
You have to trust your gut. If you have a bad gut feeling but don’t want to tell others because of goals your mind is afraid of sacrificing, you need to trust your gut over your mind.
If that’s where you are, just know that there is a better life than you can imagine waiting for you, if you truly decide to feed your true self. Everything you think about losing is nothing compared to the continual warm glow of knowing you’ve got your own back.
Don’t give that up for someone else. Don’t be with someone who makes you betray yourself.
I truly wish I’d known this when I was 21. Got married super young and went through 20 years (4 years of dating, 16 of marriage) of hell. I had so many reservations that I refused to admit to myself, let alone others, because I didn’t believe i was worth loving, that I’d never find love again, etc.
My family actually celebrated when I left my ex. They’d apparently seen it the whole time.
Seriously, young people. Trust your gut.
I stayed with a woman for about five years after my gut knew.
One of the things that helped me start realizing I had to get out and make my own life was this line from a psychology course I listened to on youtube, talking about intuition:
If you ignore that thing that’s calling you forth, you will pay for it like you cannot possibly imagine.
It’s difficult to avoid them, but you can obviously make an insurances against some undesirable consequences, like house fire or illness.
Also keep a buffer of money to solve sudden stuff. Like, don’t travel without having enough cash to get a return ticket, or if you rely on a car, you should always have enough money to make a down payment for a new one when it inevitably breaks.
In general you shouldn’t have to be afraid of irreversible consequences. You have to break an egg to make a cake. Changes are most often for the better.
Some things are obviously more serious than others and sometimes you just can’t know everything up front. Like having a child. That’s a leap of faith that you just have to do if you want to. Changing jobs can also be nerve wrecking, but you can probably insure your income or make savings in case things don’t work out.
Is there anything in particular you’d like to be able to undo?
Figure out exactly what undesirable life consequences means to you. Some people dream of a quiet life with pets and hobbies, some would call that a failure.
But no, you can’t avoid all negative life consequences. Even if life is a 1:1 totally predictable processing machine (it’s not), you still can’t control all the inputs
Don’t ask for life advice from strangers on the internet who have no incentive to give you GOOD life advice
Dont listen to him!!1!
Sure: never go anywhere or do anything of substance or interact with anyone in any meaningful way. Avoid the potential for consequences.
Exist, but don’t live.
Doing this. It still doesn’t work.
This question is so generic I can’t help but feel there is a more specific idea behind it. Can you talk about what made you want to ask this, what kind of answers you’re expecting?
Try to keep your cool in messy situations, that way you can easier think about how to get the least worst or even a good outcome. But it can be hard, maybe something like tapping on your arm can help to distract and clear the mind
I know that this does not answer your question, but i really cant think of something that was not already told
Try to avoid jumping off a tall building into a herd of angry goats infected with anthrax while shooting up meth with a dirty needle.
Do not parachute into hostile dictatorships naked and passionately screaming the name of the country’s dictator’s mother; then when the police come to deal with you, throw random narcotics at them.
Refrain from public interspecies fornication for the duration of your visits to the sacred sites of major religions.
Do not permit the bandsaw to become acquainted with your neck.
When sawing off your head, you want a nice clean cut. You’ll want a new dual-purpose hacksaw blade, probably about 24-28 tpi.
Lots of valuable life lessons here
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Don’t waste energy trying to live life with zero irreversible or undesirable consequences.
Plan to avoid them, sure. Make good choices, sure. Accept that a lot of your learning, growing and opportunities will emerge from irreversible and undesirable outcomes
Agreed. Trying to have a zillion overcomplicated algorithms to avoid minor problems in life is a surefire way to plan your way into anxiety.
Accept there will be minor (and some major) issues in your life that could not have been anticipated and gamed in advance. Get good at problem solving and try to make decisions that bring you closer to your desired outcomes. A healthy balance between food decision-making and reasonable problem solving will get you further than anything else.
Do you mean decision-making on food or generally good decision-making? Not sure on what does it mean by reasonable problem solving, could we have some specific examples? Thank you.
Yeah, sorry. I wasn’t talking about food.
The reasonable problem solving I was talking about is trying to make the best decisions you can given the circumstances, and knowing that even though you tried your best in that process, things will not always work out ideally. Being hard on yourself for making POOR decisions is understandable, but beating yourself up for making a good decision that wasn’t THE BEST DECISION POSSIBLE is counterproductive.
Giving examples for this sort of thing is difficult because of all of the nuance involved. Just make a step in the right direction every time you can, and your situation should generally be on an upward trajectory because of it. Allow yourself failure because each failure is an opportunity to learn; and if you learn, you also get to count that as win
Yes, life is a continuous stream of irreversible consequences. You just have to make peace with that fact and you can live a much less stressful life. (I say this as someone who has not made peace with that fact yet.)
