I saw this discussion brought up on a different thread and I though I’d get some more opinions on the matter.
The Beehaw community guidelines describe a place that’s meant to be safe, friendly and encourages people to discuss their ideas in good faith. For the most part I feel like this community lives up to that; users of this instance are generally thoughtful with their responses. However, I don’t feel like that level of quality extends to the users who post from other instances. Responses from those users are more likely to pendantic, overly argumentative, and unhelpful.
Now I may just be an elitist fuck so I’d like to hear your opinions on this. Does Beehaw benefit from federation? Do the community guidelines even matter if they don’t apply to many of the people who engage with this instance? Am I just looking for a reason to complain?
EDIT: This post isn’t a request for Beehaw to defederate btw. I just wanted to discuss the negatives of federation and what we can do to alleviate them :)
Now I may just be an elitist fuck
Sounds about right.
Did this reply contribute anything meaningful to the discussion?
Is generalizing large amount of people, just because they signed to another instance a good contribution to anything?
This feels like a bad faith argument. OP correctly identifies that users from instances other than Beehaw tend to be more likely to engage in argumentative and pedantic commentary, which you prove in your interactions so far.
Also OP recognized that it sounds elitist, which I initially just agreed with. Not sure why you interpret this as a bad faith argument.
That wasn’t the argument that was pointed out as being clearly bad faith
It was the context of my response, which people assumed to be a bad faith argument.
More likely ≠ all
They talked about a tendency, not every user from different instances than Beehaw.
Fair point.
I think we still have two “shields” protecting our ways in Beehaw:
- the lack of downvotes. Perhaps people will downvote you from other instances. But you won’t see those, so you will not care. I find that this removes a lot of negativity on its own.
- when someone posts from another instance, you can see it in their name: so you can take what they say with a pinch of salt. “Oh, he is not from Beehaw; it is more normal for them to behave like that. No use to argue strongly against them”.
As long as we have those, and as long as the federated instances moderate harmful content, it is OK for me to remain federated with them.
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Contrary to popular belief, there are actually three options. You can disagree with something by not upvoting it (instead of downvoting it). On beehaw, you can get an indicator of what the overall community thinks of a response by seeing whether or not it has a significant number of upvotes relative to the rest of the content around it.
I find that anything that I would want to downvote should instead be reported anyway. I reserve downvotes on other platforms for posts/comments that are made in bad faith, which on Beehaw is often enough to report for anyway. On other platforms, I’ve seen downvotes used in exactly the way you describe, and it’s led to at least me wanting to interact as minimally as possible knowing that as soon as I post something, some bot might just downvote it right away, immediately influencing the kinds of responses I get because apparently many people operate as part of a hivemind.
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I’m getting Poe’s Law’d hard with this one. I’ll take it at face value and just say thanks for the positive discussion :)
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Thanks! I think I’ve been trained by other platforms to expect some kind of defensive response almost every time I post something. It’s something I’ve been trying to unlearn.
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Yeah, same. I went back to my facebook groups and instagram pages for a while when reddit went crappy, and it really highlighted how helpful downvotes were
Downvotes are helpful if they are used properly (off-topic, hate speech, rediquitte, etc.), but I see people using it as a dislike button lately and that has made many discussion annoying and exhausting. Also, downvotes latently breed a hivemind which is like one of the worst parts of reddit.
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I think downvotes make it too easy to avoid discussion, I’d prefer if someone has a problem with something, they actually speak up and say something. Then that response getting lots of upvotes is a much better indicator of what the community feels.
I agree with this. It’s hortible to get downvotes when you can’t work out what you did wrong. Discussion is much better.
I’m on Kbin and subscribe to some Beehaw communities and enjoy interacting with them (in a good way I hope!). Generally for the fedi to work I think people need to forget about where people are posting from and deal with comments and users as they stand on a case by case basis
I think you kind of say this yourself:
For the most part I feel like this community lives up to that; users of this instance are generally thoughtful with their responses.
Basically things are generally working except for a few people who have just started using Fedi instances. Maybe discuss with them, report them or whatever but defederation when things are more or less working out seems a bit OTT to me
I am not even sure what elitist means in any real sense. Just an attempted jibe I guess. Ignore it.
Behaw benefiting from Federation, sure it does. I would not be here without it. As for trolling, I have not seen it. Maybe I look at different communities
Frankly what the threadiverse needs is more collaborative and granular admin and user mod tools. Reason I joined Beehaw is so trolls would get push back and blocked. Sad we lost lemmy.world and that lemmey.ml does not accept subscriptions though. Loosing st.itjust.works was a loss too.
I think people who visit here have been pretty cool. Not any worse or inferior to people with accounts here.
Responses from those users are more likely to pendantic, overly argumentative, and unhelpful.
I can’t always be sure for the first two for myself. I do try to be helpful though, which seems a little easier to judge. Now, when I find it difficult to judge how my own comments can be perceived, how is it possible to be sure about other people’s posts and comments…
The rest of my thoughts are pretty much what @[email protected] said.
I was merrily using Lemmy, and later on Kbin in addition to that, for many months.
But then in recent weeks the culture seemed to change: More aggressive, insulting, and rude posts, even over nothing; some of them first responses to posts, others over nothing particularly political, just pop culture opinions and the like. And way, way more downvotes. And that last one was particularly new to me personally.
I’ve always been a laughably polite person, even irl, according to folks who know me, and had been the same online unless someone was outrageously offensive and mean (though in recent years simply handled that by a process of mute > report > block, rather than waste energy). But in recent weeks I’d noticed way more downvotes coming my way on innocuous posts, which was a first for me. I’d even told folks who were unsure about joining Lemmy, “Ah, don’t worry about the Marxist-Leninist reputation and the bad rap; I’ve never experienced any tankie stuff on there, and only ever had positive experiences - I mean, look, I’ve barely ever been downvoted, only ever received kind upvotes for what I’ve tried to ensure are thoughtful, positive contributions!”
Lately it’s turned nasty, and negative. I joined Kbin and most discourse on there was either polluted by the same culture rising on Lemmy, or dominated by people mocking Beehaw for wanting no part of what many agree is a recent influx of bad habits from Reddit folks. This theory is particularly popular on Mastodon, where people pointed out the switch from Twitter to Mastodon was more politically motivated, whereas the Reddit exodus was more about convenience. I thought that was an interesting explanation for these more negative experiences of late.
I’m sorry if this is a long post that doesn’t at first seem to address the actual question, haha! I guess I’m just trying to contribute my own personal perspective that is related to the topic - and demonstrates why I’ve recently arrived at Beehaw, as an online space that appeals to me, in contrast to those other aforementioned places.
I’ve been seeing some of the more mocking, belittling, shouty replies here. And sadly they got upvoted too, which also made me second guess, are these kind of behaviors acceptable?
I came to beehaw after the reddit API thingy, but I have barely replying with the users there for years because of how toxic the community could be. So, in essence I came here, because I’m searching for a safe space where people could be more warm and welcoming, and not just some race towards weird superiority complex.
Sadly, similar thing is happening to mastodon too, people are more and more behaving as if it’s twitter again, lots of shouting. I stopped posting there.
I thought mastodon and beehaw would be a turning point, where internet does not go back to 4chan, usenet, reddit era, but into something of an actual community where people help each other, but I guess that’s wrong.
So yeah, if the hostility / toxicity replies keeps on going, I think I’d also leave beehaw altogether.
Edit: Everytime when I post something like this on social media, I’m prepared for the replies to chase me out.
I’ve been seeing some of the more mocking, belittling, shouty replies here. And sadly they got upvoted too, which also made me second guess, are these kind of behaviors acceptable?
Just wanna say, if in doubt, do report and we’ll take a look at it. We unfortunately can’t read everything despite me trying at first until I realized that was not healthy for me. I hope you’re doing okay 💜
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that’s also what I like in beehaw and the thought I have about the last few weeks. I hope things settle down soon.
I had almost forgotten about the bad reddit habits when I first made the transition to Lemmy due to being on mostly less popular subs, so I was kinda expecting a tildeverse.org experience when getting here.
Sadly I got reminded of the fact this is a reddit exodus when people kept talking about spez here, and how reddit so shit now, and how Lemmy is superior and just the general sense of everyone patting each other on the back and you know, Lemmy circlejerk.
I didn’t join Lemmy just for it to become reddit again :c
An increasing percentage of what I read is from federated instances. If Beehaw isolated itself I’d probably make an account elsewhere and hook into the fediverse from elsewhere, leaving Beehaw behind. Beehaw is great, but it’s not enough of a community by itself.
I agree, we are already defederated from big instance like LW. If beehaw isolates itself it would just be a forum with a few thousands more or less inactive people and would die.
i don’t think being a small forum is necessarily a bad thing. smaller places are easier to moderate, and they tend to be more chill. i’ve run another forum for about 10 years, and it’s still going strong with only a few hundred active users at any given time. we very rarely have issues with people upsetting the flow. we’ve always managed to recover when that does happen.
Are they defederated because it’s so big?
Essentially, yeah.
No, they were federated, but in the beginning LW had some problems with trolls and were not able to mod everything, so beehaw defederated with LW because of this…
Well I hope they can get it under control, there’s a community with double digit members I’d like to join.
So far I have found that being on a smaller instance has been beneficial because most of the small instances don’t get defederated as long as they aren’t actively encouraging terrible behavior (or are abandoned) even if you primarily post at beehaw or something, having the option to find good communities within other large instances is nice. Reddit had some good communities even as the site was going down the enshittification route.
I don’t really care about most of the communities on my home instance, but having access to everything else on lemmy within reason is nice.
I think that makes sense, I was considering programming.dev, but I do like having a single account
Not the most idea solution, but you can make an account on another instance (LW for example) if you want to contribute to instances that aren’t federated with Beehaw. Hopefully one day we’ll be able to refederate with them, although I expect that there needs to be an increase in moderation bandwidth from the Beehaw side before they’ll be able to handle that kind of load.
On the plus side, it seems like mobile apps for Lemmy are already designed to handle switching between multiple accounts.
Existing apps made switching pretty good and I’m now loving sync’s ability to apply custom themes. My beehaw acct has a nice honey tinge.
Just a thought. So far I’ve only had a bad experience with two people. One was unabashedly transphobic and was banned.
The other was overly argumentative and pendentic, and wouldn’t let up. That made me think about inclusivity. What if this person has autism? Shouldn’t we be extra patient with some people?
To be perfectly honest if I’d have to choose between meeting either of them irl I’d probably prefer the transphobe.
What do you think?
As an autistic adult, it makes me incredibly sad that you would prefer to meet a transphobe. Occasionally (not on Beehaw as far as I know) I’m accused of being pedantic and argumentative online, but often the cause is a total misinterpretation of my tone and intent. I find it heartbreaking that hanging out with a transphobe is preferable to trying to understand an autistic person, and in all sincerity I hope you will explore the cause of your ableism so you can overcome it.
Hey friend, it didn’t make only you sad. The viewpoint expressed was really not nice. Facing hardships in life because of your sexuality (which is not exactly a choice) seems like is not enough to be understanding towards other groups of people facing hardships in their life by having it be determined by things they didn’t choose. In many cases it doesn’t even seem enough to be a decent person.
Having lived all my life close to people I love and are struggling with the most difficult disabilities caused by autism, I had to try to ignore the comment that made you sad.
Thank you. Thank you. It really means more than you can imagine, I saw the little notification bell and thought for certain it was someone else disagreeing with me. I’m queer myself and very much an ally to everyone whose queerness is different to my own, and it hurt so much to learn that my diagnosis, to some, makes me less tolerable than a member of a hate group.
(This might be somewhat on the spectrum pedantic, but…) I wouldn’t call it “ableism”. Autism is not a disability by itself, it’s just a difference in communication; where neurotypicals focus on the “how” before the “what”, people on the spectrum tend to focus on the “what” before the “how”. That means, a neurotypical can easily sound like a pompous blob of nothing to someone neurodivergent, while someone neurodivergent can sound like a total asshole to a neurotypical, with neither of them particularly trying to. Meaning, autism is more of a “disability by comparison” in a world dominated by neurotypicals; if it were the other way around, we might be calling the “socio-emos” disabled, unable to focus on a single task without needing a break for some “casual chat”.
So I’m not really surprised that a neurotypical would rather meet another neurotypical, even a transphobe, rather than a neurodivergent tolerant person. It is indeed sad, but kind of expected, we just don’t speak the same language.
I think we agree on far more than we disagree on. However, for me, autism is legitimately disabling- I am prevented from engaging in many normal life activities that non-autistic people enjoy. Partly this is due to extremely severe sensory processing disorder, which I was told is part of my autism diagnosis and not a separate issue. Partly it’s due to ableism, which I define as “social prejudice against people with a specific diagnosis”- which is exactly what’s happening when an NT prefers the company of a member of a hate group above the company of someone with an autism diagnosis.
which is exactly what’s happening when an NT prefers the company of a member of a hate group above the company of someone with an autism diagnosis.
What do you suggest though? We can’t force NTs to spend time with autistic people, and it wouldn’t be constructive.
What I do is challenge this attitude when I see it. People think it’s acceptable to reject autistic people socially, and they continue to think this because nobody’s ever pointed out the inherent ableism in such an attitude. It’s just considered acceptable to feel that way, just like it would have been acceptable in the 1940s for a white person to not want Black people living in their neighbourhood- the same arguments were put forth, that integration could not and should not be forced on people. Now we know that is wrong. It’s time to know that social rejection of autistic people simply on the basis of autism is also wrong.
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I get what you mean, but for me ND is different from disability.
In my experience, ND means I get miserable at a party with too many people (2 is almost too many), but I can watch paint dry for hours, have a great conversation with a (diagnosed) schizophrenic, or see the world (or a machine) as a holistic thing made of multiple levels of organization all at once in see-through 4D. It’s just a different way of perceiving the world, that NTs can’t stand and/or have a hard time understanding.
Disability, is what I call being part blind, I get nothing from it, just a loss (and it drives me crazy at times). Similarly with losing sensibility in my legs when I force my back, it just makes me fall over.
That leads me to define ableism as “disparaging people with disabilities”, which the NT/ND conflict doesn’t need to be; it can be just a preference to communicate in a way one can be understood, like picking a common language.
For example, I’ve been practicing communicating with NTs all my life… but I will begrudgingly admit that I felt much more at ease the one time I had a discussion with a ND homophobe mysogynistic nazi sympathizer; even if some part of me felt like kicking the living shit out of the guy, the conversation itself, felt easier. Would I pick that over a conversation with a NT tolerant person…? Maybe not, but I don’t feel like I can blame an NT with no experience talking to NDs if they picked the opposite.
If your argument is “you can’t be ableist against an autistic person because autism is not a disability”, we will have to agree to disagree, because my lived experience is that autism (for me) is disabling and ableism against the autistic is both real and disabling.
I also feel that reducing it to a simple language issue is negating that there are autistic folks (like me) who are disabled by aspects of their autism that are not related to failure to communicate with NDs. It’s good that your lived experience has been that autism is not disabling for you. My experience is different, and my experience still counts.
More nuanced: “someone doesn’t necessarily have to be ableist against an autistic person, because autism is not just a disability”. They can still be intolerant, though.
But you are right, this is from my experience. I might also be missing ways it might be disabling, just don’t perceive it that way; my main perception is the communication barrier. If you are willing to discuss your experience, I’m willing to listen and learn.
Please understand that writing about my experience of autism in a Beehaw comment will necessarily give an extremely simplified and limited view of what my life is like. I’ve had similar discussions in the past where the other person either decided I was seeking advice or found a way to twist my experience to fit their beliefs, and I’m honestly not here for either- if I stop responding after this comment, that would probably be why. I also can only give a few examples without also writing a book.
I am hypersensitive to all kinds of things that non-disabled people can easily ignore. I cannot go anywhere where there might be harsh florescent lighting, sudden noises, flashing lights, loud music, or strong, invasive smells like perfume, because these things cause me literal pain. This means I can’t go shopping in a mall or pretty much anywhere else. I can’t go to any large gathering of people. In fact, I can rarely go outside at all, because you never know when you’re going to be confronted with someone who thinks the whole neighbourhood wants to hear their music. I suffer from severe emotional dysregulation that makes my life a living hell- I am 51 and I have regular meltdowns and attacks of rage. My behaviour is not “normal” for a woman of my age, and it causes me great distress and prevents me from living the life I want to live.
That is not to say that I would want to cure my autism. The fact is, I am attempting to get treatment for my sensory processing disorder but am fighting ableist anti-autistic attitudes from local health care professionals. I believe there needs to be some sort of place in the NT world for those of us who are totally overwhelmed by the NT world but also would like to not always be left out of everything.
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Hey, from Fosstodon here. If I hadn’t already created an account at fosstodon, I’d probably be at Beehaw. Yes, it does benefit from federation. Smaller-like minded communities are usually better at self policing than one large one that does it for them which is why I think the model works.If Beehaw were to remove federation, then it would no longer be part of the Fediverse. I would be sad to see it go, but I am only interested in the Fediverse.
Beehaw already isn’t really federated since it has blocked lemmy.world, which is 10x the size of Beehaw now and will likely be more like 100x the size of Beehaw at some point.
I personally’d prefer if Beehaw was fully federated (especially with lemmy.world), but I think this weird half way point is bullshit. Fully defederating would be better than the current situation.
As for arguments/etc… I don’t think the quality of discussion here is any better than Lemmy.world.
I disagree, I have an account in both places and lemmy.world feels a lot more like reddit did than beehaw. I can hardly ever tolerate to use that account. And I left reddit because everyone was mean, not because of the API stuff.
My sh.itjust.works acct is my main so from my point of view* beehaw already isn’t federated. I have an acct here so I can always pop in for this kind of space so I don’t really mind if we defederated. But I agree it might be time to consider how long the half measures are going to stay in place.
Hello from kbin, I was having this discussion with someone on another post about users views of the Reddit alternatives. I made a comment that I slightly prefer Raddle to the rest of the Fediverse because it is a closed community, largely for anarchists and queer folks. I’ve definitely noticed a creeping toxicity since I opened my account with kbin after moving from Reddit when everyone else did and, to prove my point, was reduced (down voted) by a conservative reactionary, judging by their posts.
Federation is a interesting and I wonder how things would be here if politics was less reactionary and more about discussion and consensus. Any instance benefits from federation through an increased user base but that necessarily comes with the impact of not being able to manage who is in that user base.
When an online forum, social network, blog, etc. has a lot of users, it’s easier that bad elements are present inside those communities. That’s something that not only happens online, but in general. Compare a tiny village with 1.000 inhabitants, to a big city with 7.000.000 inhabitants. Where do you think there are more murderers, robbers, kidnappers…?
But defederation must not be the most useful resource to avoid those bad elements. You can’t place a dome above that big city with 7.000.000 inhabitants to avoid those murderers from going to other places and starting murdering. Good laws and police officers can do really good to minimize the damage. In the same way, good admins and moderators can really improve how nice a server is.
It’s true that when another server has bad policies or bad admins, we can’t do their job from here, because that’s not only our responsibility. If we do the hard work while they do nothing, it’s obvious that defederation can be a good tool, until situation improves over there. But that’s one thing, and another thing is complete and absolute defederation. Nobody deserves that, and, in the end, everything will be detrimental.
As time passes, people will realize that things in the fediverse are completely different to things on Twitter, Reddit, Facebook, Instagram… and they’ll adapt their bad behaviour, influenced by those trash places, to a more healthy one.
I’ve found myself unsubscribing from beehaw communities that I had previously subbed to initially because I find they have a certain style and direction that isn’t balanced enough. Your message posed as a question more or less explains why I feel like that. Now I only see beehaw content when browsing ‘all’ because of it.
Isn’t balanced enough? How do you mean?
Beehaw is dangerously close to group think that shouts down/deletes other viewpoints. There is a difficult to discern line between a view you don’t agree with and what is labeled here as “close minded”.
I myself experienced that when I posed a opposing viewpoint regarding a search for non right wing podcasts. I can understand wanting a podcast without any mention of politics but to say I don’t want to listen to X group because I don’t agree isn’t a positive way to take disagreement.
I have noticed that beehaw tends to shout down people that disagree which is not beneficial. The more you shout down/ignore a group the louder they become. That is the main reason why I think, at least the US, is in the polarized political environment it is in now. We have lost our thought of empathy, discourse and evaluation of ideas different from our own.
A person said they’re looking for a podcast that’s not right wing, you told them that what they want is bad, and then you were surprised to see people react negatively? I’m not going to trawl through your comments to find the exchange, but based on your own description it’s pretty clear why they felt antagonised…
It is okay for people to disagree. That’s completely fine and it’s totally fine for you to make your comment.
I figured people would disagree. That’s par for the course here.
Whats not okay is people making comments like “oh you made a duplicate account”. Why is that? While the person disagrees, which is fine, it shows that there are people who believe just because you are supporting an opposing viewpoint, you must not be a real person or actually only one person with that view.
Should it be moderated? No, not at all. It is just a symptom of the beehaw culture of moderation to bee nice.
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If you truly feel like you are getting responded to in bad faith, please report the comment. Mods don’t end up seeing everything, and reports help bring our attention to things that may break our be(e) nice rule
Well the moderating is part of the problem. Moderators that delete or restrict comments that aren’t “nice” drives those people that have been moderated into groups that reaffirm their beliefs, however dangerous they may be.
I take a view that even if something isn’t “nice” it should never be moderated unless it advocates for violence against a group or puts endangers someone’s privacy. In life we may find ourselves in conversations or with people we can’t censor or shout down so why would we do it online?
People may ask why I’m still on beehaw and the fact is that I don’t agree with many of the viewpoints advocated here but I have to practice what I preach. If I run away from beehaw and don’t contribute then the community gets sucked in further to group think on a specific viewpoint.
People may ask why I’m still on beehaw and the fact is that I don’t agree with many of the viewpoints advocated here but I have to practice what I preach. If I run away from beehaw and don’t contribute then the community gets sucked in further to group think on a specific viewpoint.
To be clear, you’re explicitly stating here that you are sticking around, despite not agreeing with the ethos, in order to stick to your own ethos, which is the following:
I take a view that even if something isn’t “nice” it should never be moderated unless it advocates for violence against a group or puts endangers someone’s privacy. In life we may find ourselves in conversations or with people we can’t censor or shout down so why would we do it online?
Is that a correct read of what you are saying? Or am I completely off the mark here?
Yes I do disagree with the moderation policy here. However, just because I disagree with it doesn’t mean that I intend to be disrespectful to any individual on this server.
I stay because at least the mods are active, get involved in discussions, and care to be transparent with how operations are run for the instance (the monthly financial reports are great).
Beehaw is my first experience with Lemmy, have I liked all of it? No but the fact that it is federated (as all Lemmy instances are) and transparent, which doesn’t happen for all instances, is refreshing.
Thank you for responding, I think it’s fine to disagree with how we think we can help to solve the problem of toxicity on the internet, so long as you’re still agreeing to be nice when you’re on here.
I have noticed that beehaw tends to shout down people that disagree which is not beneficial. The more you shout down/ignore a group the louder they become.
I don’t have (and never had) a Beehaw account, primarily because I’d rather stay in small servers, so I’m going to have to take your word for this.
If this is true, then another danger is it (community, server, platform, etc) becomes an echo chamber. A place where dissenting views are suppressed and the majority encourages like-minded points of view. Imho, that’s unhealthy.
If this is true, then another danger is it (community, server, platform, etc) becomes an echo chamber.
There’s a middle ground between being an “echo chamber” and being forced to put up with the same 10 different bad-faith bumper-sticker sealion questions over and over again for all eternity.
I come to Beehaw when I’m just dead-dog tired of having the same arguments over and over again, when I’m sick to death of hearing what the alt-right thinks about any given issue, when I’m just fed up having to defend my identity and my beliefs from crypto-facists who think they’re being subtle when they imply I shouldn’t exist and wouldn’t exist if they had their way.
I know what “the other side” thinks. Dear God, I can’t escape hearing what “the other side” thinks, about everything from the international politics of war to beer cans. I’m well aware of the “discussion” they want to have, I’ve had it eighty thousand times over the course of my life and it’s always the same theme and the same tactics lightly reskinned for whatever outrage bait they read about on Facebook last week.
For example, their opinion on “kids getting trans surgery” is exactly the same pile of nonsense as their opinion on “partial-birth abortion” was 25 years ago: “We’re going to take an extreme situation, that almost never actually happens precisely because of how extreme it is, that only ever takes place after months or years of agonizing decision-making between parents and entire teams of professionals with advanced degrees and decades of experience, and pretend like it’s the primary form of this issue and happens on a whim.”
I’m over 40. I’ve heard it all. I know what their opinions are. Fuck, I know what their opinions will be on shit that hasn’t even come up yet, because it never changes. They never shut up about their opinions. So no, I’m not worried about getting into an “echo chamber”. I like finally having a little bit of soundproofing between me and the “(allegedly) silent majority”.
That’s true and I can definitely see the appeal. Sometines it’s just nice to chill with like-minded people and get away from the toxicity of the internet.
It’s a double-edged sword in my experience, though. My local subreddit has been an echo chamber for years now. Politics and complaints. You’ll seldom see a thread where both of those aren’t present. Dissent is also discouraged by the majority through actions (downvotes) and replies. It got so bad i stopped going there for more than a year before the reddit API shitshow. I don’t want to see every single post containing a comment about how our country is a shithole with no hope and it’s better to move to literally any other country. Imagine you’re stuck in a community filled with the “other side”. It’s that bad (at least when I was there).
If Beehaw can maintain a good and positive community then there may not be an issue. Unfortunately, we’re on lemmy and it’s quite easy for bad actors to infiltrate a community unless everyone is vigilant. I hate bigots and discrimination probably as much as you, but I have to admit an echo chamber of the other (extreme) side of the spectrum doesn’t really appeal to me, either. Extremes really aren’t for me. A middle ground, like you said, sounds nice.
Hopefully Beehaw can maintain its standard and stay in the middle. I think that would be my biggest concern if I were a beehaw user. Or even a lemmy user.
It’s possible that I’m misunderstanding what you’re saying, but you’re posting on a topic on a Beehaw community right now.
Yup. I was just commenting on the other poster. I was using his statement since, like I’ve said, I never had a Beehaw account. IDK what goes on in here except for what I see on my ALL feed.
I think the main issue is the tone with which an idea is presented, not always the idea itself. I’m open to many viewpoints; in fact, that’s how I learn and understand best. I don’t only want to listen to people who already think like I do.
Some things can’t be compromised on, though. In my opinion, US conservatives have become blatantly bigoted, sexist, and fascist. In the past, one could give them the benefit of the doubt, but they’re not even trying to hide it anymore. I don’t care how they “present” their ideas. When someone tries to explain why tacitly supporting bigotry is okay, it doesn’t matter how eloquently they make their point. They are actively opposed to tolerance, and therefore don’t deserve it.
I think the tone statement is true. There were probably were some ways for me to improve my phrasing.
I go assuming the benefit of the doubt for most if not all posts since they are text only. We can derive a lot of things from body language and actual tone in real life.
Yeah, we can. I came across a study on the role of nonverbal cues in communication. We rely on them much more than you’d expect. It’s not surprising that misunderstandings happen so often when we’ve only got text to go on.