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This is definitely not an adhd thing
You can achieve the same effect through different ways. Just because ADHD people happen to break those rules it doesn’t mean they have to break them for the same reasons as autistic people for example.
That’s social behaviors, like talking over others. It’s not lack of picking up social cues which is that “unwritten rule” your post is mentioning.
In this scene, everyone is annoyed at Homer because he put on his weird music. “Don’t play your weird music“ is definitely one of those rules I keep defying
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I was always repeating a moral lesson about northern cold climate birds until people learned not to listen to the auks fable.
I’m sorry, but if he called shotgun before anyone else, he has all the right!
I once went to a BBQ and explained to them how to cook a burger. I also did a few other things too, like explaining to people how x or y worked.
A few years later my therapist broke down all the problematic things I did and explained why I wasn’t invited in later years.
Is this an ADHD thing too? I thought this was an autism thing
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Nobody cares what you think about ADHD. bye.
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There’s shitty people in the fediverse like the rest of the world and we can’t stop randos from voting. Rest assured we don’t tolerate ableist idiots like the above comment and that poster has since been banned.
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Gasp, some one is having fun and I’m not a part of it!?
How dare those disableds get to relate to each other!
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Why tf everyone assumes that those things are “superpowers”, wtf?
OP insinuates that there is nothing wrong with us
I never said any of that stuff. You’re just making stuff up right now.
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Yeah, like I’m so glad I’ve wrecked friendships over not doing something I didn’t know I was supposed to do and made absolutely no sense after I was told about it. Such a superpower.
Yup. Sure is great to constantly strain my marriage due to shit that is legitimately annoying and upsetting that I struggle to avoid doing.
The funny thing is that ADHD people actually hate when people say that their ADHD is an superpower because it’s a total bullshit that neurotypicals love to say.
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What does even this joke mean?
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Gotcha, I wasn’t familiar with the term.
The only people who have ever told me I should treat being disabled like it gives me superpowers have been neurotypical and able bodied. We don’t like it.
There’s a lot of overlap, but it’s an autistic thing. ADHD had no effect on social skills.
Bro I wish
Uhhh I have ADHD it 100% impacts my social skills. There’s a night and day difference between when I’m medicated and when I’m not.
It’s a “a lot of things” thing. Generally, the taboo around such behavior is just a symptom of a lack of empathy.
Just about any person could go into a panic while in a state of stress and do something irrational, and just about everyone does at least a few times. In a shared moment of stress, you might see more empathy because “any of us could have panicked/froze/etc.,” but if it’s just you, “something’s wrong with that person.”
Ahh, the symptoms pool overlap…
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If they wanted me to follow some rules that I’m apparently expected to know to make everyone comfortable, maybe they should’ve taught me that in school instead of trigonometry -_-
Maybe additionally, trigonometry is actually pretty useful. Learning capacity isn’t that limited, it’s motivation and attention that’s constantly out of stock.
No, that would be your parents‘ task.
I used to think like this but let’s be honest, it’s not a fair shake. Social services should be somewhat capable of making up for poor, abusive, or absent parenting. School being the one social service children are practically guaranteed to interact with, it seems like a fair approach.
What if your parents are autistic as well? Mine were.
Whoa, trig doesn’t deserve to be catching strays like that
Oh I didn’t mean disrespect against it, it is just the first school-soundy thing that came to mind.
With that said I I will admit I couldn’t tell you off the top of my head what trigonometry actually is.
With that said I I will admit I couldn’t tell you off the top of my head what trigonometry actually is.
It’s the study of the geometry of triangles (trigon - three-sided polygon + metry - roughly measurement of, with an extra o to join them together). You can use the basic principles of some parts of it to make life easier.
For example, the “3-4-5 rule”, based on the Pythagorean Theorem. If you need to make sure that something is roughly a 90° angle measure 3 units up one side and mark it, 4 units up the other and mark it, then measure the distance between the marks. If it is 5 units, then you have a 90° angle. The super cool thing is that you can use any unit used to measure linear distance; inches, angstroms, furlongs, kilometers, beard-seconds, whatever.
ooooh ok! interesting, good to know thanks
You’re welcome! It’s a super cool trick that an electrician taught me years ago.
must’ve been a shock
A bit but I quickly understood its potential.
Trig…gered
Even if they taught you that in school, you still wouldn’t listen.
huh what sorry I spaced out for a sec what did you say
Certainly can teach both. Math is not the problem school systems have and yet are always the target of abuse.
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Did you intentionally mention everyone back to the OP, or is that just how your instance works?
They might be on mastodon.
Oh, yep, looks like it. Didn’t know Mastodon works with Lemmy. That’s neat.
ActivityPub sure is great
IKR? My next vanity project will be updating the blog software I wrote to use ActivityPub for the comment section. I don’t know if it’ll work, but I’m sure I’ll learn something trying!
Shame they don’t grade you on how cool your backwards hat is.
My most common sin is inadvertently bringing up painful or offensive topics.
Someone’s dad died last week? You can bet I’ll forget and start talking about Dads on accident. In fact, it happens so often that I almost think my subconscious does remember and that’s how it ends up on my mind.
I wonder if your response is similar to why im always compelled to clap someone on the shoulder when they have a sunburn even when they didn’t expressly tell me they do
Generally stuff like that is held against someone when they didn’t even know their dad died, or didn’t realize that that particular person would overreact by being reminded of something that doesn’t seem associated.
Basically, caring far more about someone’s reaction than intent (or lack thereof) that accidentally upsetting someone is breaking a social norm.
Yep. I got in trouble for this exact thing, except I mentioned my father and it was their mother who had recently died. Oh, and I didn’t know this person, like I didn’t even know their name because I had literally just met them. How I was supposed to know their mom had recently died I have no idea. It ended my friendship with the person I did know after I was called all manner of unrepeatable things.
I’m neurotypical, or at least haven’t been diagnosed with anything, but that sounds like a huge overreaction from you ex-friend. To me the way that should have gone is:
- you mention father
- new acquaintance gets upset
- you apologise, perhaps stating you didn’t know about their mother and you’re so sorry
- everyone tries to move on to another topic
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Yeah, like grief is messy and I felt bad for her friend, but screaming at someone for something you know they didn’t know is not okay.
Yeah, like I felt bad that it caused them emotional pain, but being screamed into oblivion for asking to borrow a phone so I could call my father and tell him when I needed to be picked up was not the right response. I wasn’t even able to say “I’m sorry, I didn’t know” because she wouldn’t stop scream berating me (while ignoring her crying friend too). I just walked out of the room and ended up borrowing a strangers phone. We never spoke again. Thankfully the rumors she tried to spread about me were so unbelievable that no one believed them. Like my bully didn’t believe them they were that ludicrously bad.
The thing that really confused me that I found out from someone else later was that their father was still alive. Did they just never refer to their father in any way? People are going to mention their parents. Like we were all in middle school, having to say “I have to ask my parents if I can do that, go to that, etc” is practically a daily phrase at that point in life.
I just hope their friend got the help they needed. I never learned exactly when their mother passed, but it was at least several weeks in the past from what I gathered. Bursting into tears because someone simply mentions a parent, who isn’t even the one who died, suggests they need professional help. Obviously I’m not expecting people to get over a family member dying just because a certain amount of time has passed, but just hearing the word “Dad” shouldn’t cause a fountain of tears.
just never be around people and you won’t have this issue
works great
