For me it was “buy high quality pillow” because you sleep for one thrid of a day etc. I needed a new pillow anyway so I came to the store and bought the best they had. And it was … ok. Like it’s a fine pillow but my sleeping haven’t improved really, it’s basically the same. So I was disapointed :(
So, which life pro tip disappointed you?
Writing notes for myself to remind me to do something. The problem is that I don’t remember to look at the notes. What’s happening is that people are telling me advice that worked for them. That’s very nice of them to try, but when I’ve tried similar systems for decades and they always fail, it’s time to try something new.
I have a phone with me all the time and I have to be in a specific place to see notes, so notes don’t work for me. I do have a button on my phone I can talk to and say “Set a reminder to feed the animals at 6:30” or “set a weekly reminder to take out trash at 10pm every Friday” or “text her back in an hour” and then I get an alarm I can’t really ignore, I have to do something with it.
I sometimes use sticky notes in the bathroom. I stick one on the mirror right where my face appears. That way I will at least read it before removing it.
But once you get used to it you will stop paying attention. Now I only use it occassionally.
I use calendar events and put reminders depending on how important the task is. Like if it’s my mum’s birthday I put a reminder two weeks before (so I get her a gift) the day before and then the same day in the morning but if it’s something like remembering to call a company or something I just put one reminder at 3 pm on the day of the event.
You can then snooze the event for as long as you want until you have time to take care of it (at least on Samsung’s Android)
I am a larger man with broad shoulders. I have trained myself to only sleep on my side due to breathing issues arising from my oversized uvula and the tendency for my tongue to join it at the back of my throat when on my back. Even when I’m awake, breathing on my back - much less speaking - is difficult due to my uvula in particular, as I can’t consciously control how it drapes back against my throat.
So I built my own pillow, so that my head doesn’t hang from my shoulders like an afterthought – no normal pillow is tall enough to support my head while I am on my side. It looks kinda like a particularly narrow and deep parking curb, vaguely saddle shaped, only it’s not made out of concrete. It’s literally a tiny showroom-demo mattress on top of a very stable wooden base, with an actual pillow secured on top of it and everything wrapped up in a custom pillow case.
Looks strange AF, but it keeps my spine straight and the crinks out of my neck.
I’m inordinately interested in your solution here. For all of our sakes, make a post about it.
I need to see a photo or shitty MS paint drawing STAT.
I have sleep apnea and I have found a bumper belt works wonders. It’s a belt you attach to your back with several air bladders that keep you on your side, even if your body is included towards back sleeping. It travels very nicely. Just deflate the bladders and roll up the belt.
Not quite the same, but I switched to buckwheat pillows. This way you can shape it to fit however you like no matter the position. Takes some getting used to but solved my issues with most pillows. Sadly it also means no more pillow fights…
Would you mind sharing pictures? I’ve been getting massages because of my back and neck issues from side sleeping
Ok… I’m in the same boat, severe sleep apnea because of it. I sleep with 2 pillows, a dense down filled for the base and then a soft pillow on top for comfort. Keeps my head at the right height but also allows me to roll over.
Never thought about building a pillow
Most of them are downright dogshit
I went to a furniture store with a friend to pass the time before she had to pick up her boyfriend up from work, and we were looking at the mattresses since she was thinking about buying a new one. The Purple mattresses were consistently disgusting feeling. They were made out of gel material and felt like those stress balls you get out of a gumball machine. I decided to test what it’s like falling into the bed and as soon as my arms touched the mattress I knew it was a mistake. It felt like nails on a chalkboard. I would never be able to sleep in one of those beds unless I was wearing long sleeves, and maybe not even then. If I had a girlfriend who had one of those beds, I’d rather fuck her on the floor or just have her come to my place exclusively. They were also selling pillows from the same company, and they were heavy and the texture was even more noticeable.
I have a purple mattress and it’s ok, not life changing but better than my 5+ year old box spring. But I absolutely agree that sex on a memory foam is unpleasant to say the least.
Not much spring in your step with memory foam.
Maybe I’m crazy or there’s a cultural difference somewhere here, but if you needed to wear long sleeves then it’s the texture of the material, but surely you’d have a bedsheet over the mattress and not be able to feel it directly?
The pillows that they made from the same material were in pillow cases and you could still feel it through them pretty easily. I doubt a sheet would help for the mattress.
I bought the best bamboo pillow I could find and haven’t looked back. All the pillow problems I ever had just disappeared. I hate going anywhere without it.
Quitting drinking was a bummer. But mainly because most of the people I’m drawn to are sociopathic alcoholics. I don’t know if I hate the game or the player anymore :(
Hate both
because you sleep for one third of a day
Today I learned: Day is 12 hours long
I’m confused. Most people are supposed to sleep for eight hours a day, which is indeed a third of a day. Do you only sleep four hours?
Unfortunately, yes.
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Also, although I agree with the sentiment, I only need a mattress that’s just good enough to not cause issues, because when I’m asleep, I can’t care about the mattress quality.
I think you replied to wrong comment, mate.
Oops, thanks.
What they meant to say was “Buy a Coop Home Goods Eden Pillow”. We have four on our bed and two full body pillows as well. Can’t sleep on anything else now, always take at least one when I travel.
Just buying an expensive pillow won’t necessarily improve your sleep. You need to try out various pillows and find the type that works best for your body and how you sleep.
Agreed. I’ve bought various expensive pillows and was never comfy or satisfied. Memory foam hybrid cooling blah blah blah… never comfy. I bought two down feather pillows for $50. Best pillows ever for me. Only reason I had to buy more was my wife kept stealing mine.
Yep, high tech fancy pillows are bullshit. I stick to 100% down, and Egyptian cotton sheets and I sleep like a naked baby.
100% down pillows never have enough rise to be able to stay level when I’m side sleeping. But I sleep on all sides so finding a pillow isn’t easy either.
That’s why I have two.
Bro pillow quality is going down hill lately.
Yeah even with the expensive ones it’s hard to find a good one. Last time I got a pillow, I just ordered like 6 from Amazon, and tried each for a night before deciding which to keep - only one ended up being remotely good, and they were all “nice” pillows (highly rated, over $100)
Love the one I ended with though
If your sleep issues are stress-related, like mine, no pillow will do any good. The only solution is to cut the source of stress…
“Never buy a new car” - the argument being they depreciate quickly, and newer used models are “just as good”.
Nope, got burned twice in a row and wasted more money than if I’d bought a new one immediately.Yeah, my girlfriend recently needed a new car since her ancient Ford Fiesta finally kicked the bucket. She decided to limit her budget solidly to shitbox territory because she’d just had some major expenses and didn’t want to owe someone money.
I offered to lend her some money to help her get better offers. She refused – and ended up buying a car that immediately needed a transmission rebuild that cost as much as the car itself. For which I lent her some of the money.
By Grabthar’s hammer, what a savings!
Next time buy a Subaru and have the guy meet you at a dealership. They do a free inspection for you
Ironically that’s exactly what I did.
Dealership inspection was crap didn’t catch obvious issues, and 2. I live in a country where Subaru is only a minor player so not a large service networkI raised the possibility of buying a Subaru with my local mechanic and he described me as “brave”. He mentioned that the ridiculously high prices for fixing up my Merc (like £600 for a hosepipe) would be peanuts compared to Subaru repairs, and that’s assuming he could even get the parts. So I got another Volvo.
weird. i love my subie and it’s had basically no problems in 4 years, even though it was already 8 or so when i got it. i made sure to get the year where they’d fixed the gaskets, though.
Having watched so many subarus break down (belonged to neighbours and friends, and I was the person called to rescue them) some of which were brand new, buy any vehicle other than the rubbish sold with a subaru logo on it. Subaru breaks down on dirt roads constantly. Those things can only cope with flat perfect tarmac without hills in a city where public transport is available for emergencies.
A few days ago my brother saw a car on the side of the road at an odd angle, and thought it was for sale. It was not, it was yet another subaru broken down waiting for the flatbed. They just can’t hack it.
Every. Are I’ve owned has been used. Some are better than others. In general, I’ve had really good luck and have bought some great cars, but some have been money pits. You get better at spotting a good buy, but it’s still possible to get a bad one, it does come down do luck.
Always take a vehicle to a mechanic for an inspection before buying it.
I agree. I’ve also gotten shafted by used cars (7th generation Honda Civics are all utter pieces of garbage). I don’t take depreciation into account on a new car because I plan on driving it until it’s uneconomical to repair, which means it’ll be worthless when I sell it regardless.
My parents have only purchased one used car, and it was a nearly new car from someone they knew and trusted. The other 4 cars they’ve bought in the past 40 years have been new.
Yes, in light of keeping the new vehicle for its entire “life” the depreciation argument falls fairly flat. It is more meant for the “average” person who keeps a car for three years or thereabouts. I cannot imagine investing that much money flippantly. I take the time to research what I want and mean to keep my auto for a long time. That said, I prefer a solid used car over new because it has depreciated to a more fair value. I’ve done both and not been displeased with either choice. Except for one BMW…
But even if you drive the car into the ground there is still an associated cost per year as a result of buying the vehicle.
Just buy a Honda or Toyota, and all you have to do is change the oil.
I’ve replaced the engine in an '06 Civic Si after the timing chain lifter tensioner failed, the timing skipped, and the valves kissed the pistons.
It also ended up having some pretty gnarly electrical issues.
You’ve been sold a bill of goods, or whoever tried to tell you this doesn’t understand leasing.
ex-lease cars are just as good as new, come with a new car warranty, and don’t come with the absurd depreciation.
look at cars that where released 3 years ago, that’s the used cars we’re talking about not a 1990s civic or whatever.Poor people buy new cars, rich people lease them, smart people buy ex-lease cars.
And even poorer people just buy $1000 beaters and deal with it because we literally can’t afford anything better.
I am a member of the 10mm socket + Hammer club too, but if I had money I know how not to blow it
ex-lease cars are just as good as new
They literally aren’t. If the car is going to last 200k miles then getting a car with 36k miles on it already means you’re that much closer to it failing.
It’s also going to be that much closer to needing more expensive maintenance to be done.
A three year old car will often have a lesser feature set than the current year’s models. Stepping up to the higher trim that had those features 3 years ago can negate the cost savings of buying used in the first place.
Ex-lease cars are frequently well-maintained and driven responsibly, but that doesn’t mean they’re “as good as new.”
come with a new car warranty
Do you mean “comes with what’s left of the original warranty?” Because that’s generally true but doesn’t mean you benefit from it the same amount. If it has a 5 year, 60k mile warranty (Mitsubishi) and you only get the warranty for 2 years and 24k miles, that’s not the same.
With CPO cars you also get the CPO warranty but that doesn’t usually make the total warranty you get as good or better than what you would have gotten new.
Kia and Lexus both have very competitive CPO warranty programs. Kia has a 1 year / 12k miles bumper-to-bumper warranty. Lexus extends their 4 year/50k miles new car warranty by 2 years/unlimited miles after your purchase date or after the original warranty expired, whichever happens first. If you buy a CPO Lexus at the 2 year mark then you’ll get a full warranty out of it, but that’s not true for most other manufacturers.
And I don’t know of a single manufacturer that completely refreshes their warranty term for CPO cars.
and don’t come with the absurd depreciation.
The cars that make the most sense to buy used have the least depreciation, though. For example, looking at CPO Toyota RAV4s, for the ones that aren’t former rentals/didn’t have accidents/multiple owners, the 3+ year old models are very comparable in price, like 26k for a RAV4 with nearly 50k miles vs 30k new, or 27-28k for one with under 30k miles.
If the lifespan of the car for you is 10 years then a 3 year old car is 30% less valuable - so a 13% discount is hardly a bargain. You’d need to keep it for 20 years - until it was 23 years old - for your 13% savings to be more valuable than the extra lifespan of the car.
You also frequently get a worse interest rate on CPO cars than on new.
There are many times when it makes sense to buy a CPO vehicle but also many where it makes more sense to buy new. Do the math in your specific case rather than acting like there’s a one size fits all solution.
This is great advice for anyone looking to buy used and not new. Don’t buy someone else’s problems from Craigslist. Buy something from a reputable source that includes a warranty.
I’ve rented a few new cars and I’m just really not a fan of the all lack of physical buttons and controls. The smart settings like lane control, smart cruise control, the engine turning off when stopped, and notifying me with an alert when I’ve driven to many hours are extremely annoying.
I used to stick to that rule and get a sensible mid sized Toyota Corolla or Honda Accord that’s a few years old as needed. But in 2013 (the last time I needed to get a new car) the cost savings were really low compared to new. I think the used market was particularly hot so you’d save less that 10% of the cost, so I ended up getting my 1st and only (so far) brand new car ever.
Speaking of pillows. I forget what brand I have, but I’m sure there are a bunch that make the same general thing. I was annoyed that I had to fight with every pillow I had to keep it from becoming a flat piece of cardboard. 8 years ago I bought pillows filled with shredded memory foam. They came with the stuffing separately so that I could fill my pillow up myself. It’s the best pillow I’ve ever had, and it hasn’t gone flat at all after many years.
So, shredded memory foam is the way to go.
I’ve tried a couple and they give me the worst migraines. I just can’t do them. :(
The shredded kind, or the kind where it’s just a block of memory foam? Because the block kind is terrible.
Shredded kind. I was pretty disappointed since they weren’t exactly cheap. Worked really well for my ex wife though.
Interesting. Well, I hope you find what works for you. Good sleep is hard to come by.
I have one of these as well and also got it years ago! Yeah it’s the best I think, but needs a few days to stop outgassing lol.
I purchased this one: Xtreme Comforts Pillows for Sleeping
It’s like $30 or something.
I have a solid memory foam pillow and it fucking sucks. It’s like right in the middle of not being firm enough and not being soft enough. Maybe I’ll try to find one like yours.
Yeah, I’ve had a normal memory foam pillow, that’s how I felt about it too. It was designed for people who sleep still on their back like a corpse.
The sredded kind seems to be soft enough where I can mash it into a shape I want, but it doesn’t go flat over time. Or stab you with feathers.
My solution to this is to stack a soft pillow on top of a firm pillow.
Doesn’t that make your neck sore? I’ve used thin pillows all my life, whenever I use a pillow when travelling (hotel, someone else’s house etc) it’s ALWAYS to thick. I can’t imagine stacking two pillows on top of each other.
Nah. I’m mostly a side sleeper but even on my back, my head normally compresses the pillows enough that it’s comfortable. I occasionally wake up having tossed a pillow off to the side, but that’s rare.
Ah but if both pillows are old enough to vote it’s like just having one!
Yea I got a fancier pillow myself and actually find it worse but cannot afford a new.
Fancier or more expensive is not the solution. Right pillow for you is, which is not necessarily more expensive or fancier.
Also should go without saying but pillow only helps if that is the pillow is the problem.
I agree that pillows are very individualized, but I’m going to add my pillow choice out there since everyone else seems to be!
I’m very hot natured, so I found the GhostBed Pillow that stays cool during the night. Add to it that it’s just the right amount of firmness for me, and I love it.
Which one of the three do you have?
Looks like I ordered the GhostBed Medium Firm Memory Foam Pillow. I actually got it from Amazon.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a good recommend in those “What sub-$100 purchase changed your life?” threads. No, I don’t need a garlic smasher or a water pick.
