You either have to start one yourself, or have a friend do it. I think you have your work cut out for you - honestly, being mod of a cross-dressing community sounds like herding cats in hell. Fabulous cats.

Honestly, most communities are pretty small at the moment - I would start your own, and if you’re super successful and the mod load gets too much, I’m sure you’d find others willing to volunteer to help, if not outright take over moderation duties.

Well, your post is still up, so we can assume it’s okay lol.

But! Lemmy isn’t like reddit in one major way. There aren’t as many assholes. This makes moderation absurdly low effort currently. It might change in the future, but for now, you might end up needing to do anything significant maybe once a week or so.

So, you can likely do just fine. But hey, if you make it, and want someone to help you out, I’ll be glad to play second banana until you find someone that shares the interest in cross dressing. Moderating isn’t as hard as you think, though it does take time to learn how to do it well. But for a niche interest, it’s largely just a matter of keeping trolls controlled and setting up the style/vibe how you want it to be. You can do that without sharing the interest :)

It’s maybe better to start something yourself and then request help if it’s gets popular rather than ask someone else to start it for you.

On average, Lemmy communities have about 170 subscribers, so there’s every chance you wouldn’t have to do any moderation at all.