I’ve known my best friend for 20.5 years. We’re getting married in March (close to the 21 year mark).

i feel like i used to feel that way but grew out of it as i got older

Some of em, yeah. Most of them are/were strictly homegirls tho.

Thought about banging? All of them. Had a crush on? Only the cute ones.

One of – if not THE – primary causes for attraction is proximity. If you see someone often, you are much more likely to become attracted to them. Family members and ‘unavailable’ people such as those already married are typically, but not uniformly, excluded.

After that, we tend to be initially attracted to pretty people with symmetrical features, good health, and of a similar social status (we are also attracted to those of higher social rank, but they will tend to self-select themselves to be less frequently proximate as well as rejecting overtures from potential mates of lower status). That still doesn’t matter as much as frequent exposure to someone. Ideally the exposure occurs when you are both in a good mood. Bad moods make for less attraction. We also like people with whom we share common interests, habits, and so on, such that more similar people are more likely to become attracted to one another.

So, yeah, ‘friends’ are generally going to trigger psychological cues of attraction in any group. Most everyone has to deal with such feelings and quash them when appropriate. Some people have a hard time dealing and either pursue when that makes them creepy or they fail to respond when the feeling is mutual.

Crush ≠ affection. But i feel ya

Never in my case. So definitely not true for “everyone”.

Only one so far but it has been so bad that i had to reduce proximity (was not mutual). Friggin brain man, how does it work and why does it not obey my supposed will.

No, I have zero romantic feelings for any of my friends. I didn’t even realize this was something that happens. I’m in my 30s if it matters.

I who never had a crush on a goddamn thing: What.

I don’t know. I don’t have friends.