Easy solution
All this working is not working
Agree. What’s even the point
To purchase more in-game items, and feel like you’ve accomplished something for a few minutes before the sad comes back.
Part of it, for me, is that I still want to play games as I did when I was younger. I.e. multi-hour play sessions. To sit there and just get lost in it for the whole evening.
But increasingly that’s becoming unworkable. I got shit to do.
The solution, then, would be to adjust my expectations to like an hour of playtime here and there. But when I do that, I’ve created a schedule, and time limit, both of which really kill my personal enjoyment of game time. Playing a game while watching the clock is just not relaxing to me.
So I keep holding out for more of those evenings, those solid chucks of time when I pick up the controller and play till I’m ready for bed. But they become so few and far between that gaming has become a weekend thing. That’s a problem in itself because the weekend is generally reserved for doing things with my partner or other outings.
Quarantine was probably the most gaming I’ve done in a long time. I basically got to play with the same reckless abandon as I did when I was much younger, for a couple solid months. But the chances of me being able to have that same relationship with this past time ever again appears fleeting.
Yeah. The gaming nights are almost completely gone. I miss those
Steam Deck is great for this. Especially since you can suspend mid-game like a Nintendo Switch. No down time to select a game, wait for it to load, etc., if you don’t want that.
Great for quick sessions if you only have small bursts of time.
Having rigid schedules with little to no wiggle room sure contribute to that, doesn’t it. It’s really frustrating to me. For quite a long period of time (around a year-ish), I didn’t do anything else except work from home which was, for the most part, pretty chill. Naturally, even though I’m living with my partner, I had a lot of time on my hands to go to ping pong practice, play games, and other things. Now, I’ve recently started an apprenticeship and now I have time to do fuck-all once I get home from school. Groceries, cooking, some cleaning, and then it’s basically time to sleep lol. Barely, if any gaming, no time on my hands to go to practice etc.
We’ve been struggling a lot recently, but I’m still holding out hope that it’ll get a little better once we’re accustomed to the schedule even if it’ll probably only get more later on. One can hope, I guess.
It really does help to appreciate the little time we have (I have) to do recreational activities, though. It does feel really special then.
The other problem is that even when I have time off, like vacations or holidays, I have a backlog of adult things to do. And Heck if my partner is going to accept that I use my PTO to game.
It’s definitely one of those things that I really miss.
It helps me if I make an alarm for 15 minutes before I need to stop playing. It reduces the anxiety of looking at the time. It’s not the same, but better than just an alarm at quitting time.
I know not everyone has this luxury but remote work has really helped give some time back in my day. Between the flexible schedule and just napping when I feel like it, I have more time in the evening to play games again. Not everyday but a few times a week at least.
Remote work really was the saving grace for me. It’s just amazing how much more time one has once you eliminate the commuting times.
It’s not just the commute. You do the dishes and laundry during lunch and the ‘I don’t need to be here’ meetings so your free time is just that. Yours
It really is the fucking dishes that do me in. It’s never ending and soul crushing. No space for a dish washer.
Might not work for you but a countertop dishwasher was life changing in my old tiny apartment.
Question for anyone who’s got one of these things: would it be practical to like keep it in a cabinet, and pull it out when you want to use it, then put it back when you’re done? Not much counter space here… Also, someone mentioned about not needing a water hookup and just pouring water in. How difficult is it to drain those ones? I imagine if one were to try to store it between uses, you’d want it completely dry before putting away…
Maybe? You do have to make sure the drain hose is on quite tight to make sure it’s sealed. Might be annoying putting it back on each time. If you could leave it on and wrap it around it I can’t see why not. Mine was a Comfee Mini Plus so no water hookup, you could just pull it out of a cupboard so long as it fits. I mainly had mine because I had no hot water supply.
My dishwasher has been broken for over a week. I can see how your situation is soul crushing. The only thing keeping me going is a fix in the near future.
If only our lives weren’t bound by work…
We spend our best years and energy working.
Work could and should be fulfilling. Unfortunately many modern jobs are just soul crushing and feel meaningless :-(
Don’t worry, even fulfilling and meaningful jobs can now be made to feel trite and soul-crushing through the power of bad management!
Fuck, I feel this so hard…
“I’m going to get a bunch of chores done so I can try this new game out without guilt of procrastination. Or maybe try out a hobby.”
One set of chores later…
“Yawn. I’m out of energy to start something new.”
Now try it with kids ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I’m trying!
I’m still on my replay of FF6… a 25-30 hours RPG that is taking me months to finish :(
I’ve had to come to terms with not having any to play, really, except for maybe an hour or two here and there with my partner. It does feel awesome to at least have that going, but it sucks a lot that I don’t get play for extended periods of time if I want to. Not even taking advantage of any sales right now, even though I might want, just because I know that I won’t have any time to play.
Not that I can even afford a game rn shit.
I have some seriously conflicting emotions about the time I used to get 3-ish hours of sleep so I could play more. On one hand, the games were great fun; on the other, work as hell afterwards.
Been there, done that. 10 pm rolls around and I’m like “Gaming time!” And then I’m sleepy within like 30 minutes 🤣
The problem was doing the dishes. Just let them pile up, it’ll be fine.
Side note though: Work/life balance for the win. I get paid slightly less than others in my field, but I also work ~40 hours a week, and never take work home with me. It’s wonderful.
I am at a somewhat senior (escalations tech, pretty senior without being in real management) position at my work that involves 100% WFH and a boss who trusts me on my time management, plus watches out for us when we do overtime (I’m salary so gotta get approved time off if going over etc). A bunch of prior coworkers have encouraged me to leave to get better pay, but I don’t wanna give up all those benefits.
I make food at home for lunch, can play games at lunch, right after work, etc. I won’t discuss if I ever play games during my work hours because how dare you accuse me of that and also where did you hide the cameras in my room?
When does this happen? I am 27 and I am scared I will end up like this, lol.
Age and you need sleep more than gaming
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