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I’m back on my bullshit.

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  • If whatever learning meant +1 brain complexity then it we would never catch up because it would be the infinite hotel. example: learning one unit of brain complexity adds one unit of brain complexity.

    if learning meant < +1 brain complexity, then the next limiters would be brain space and time. example: learning one unit of brain complexity slightly complicates an already existing complex.

    if learning meant > +1 brain complexity, then the more you learn, the farther you get from understanding the whole thing. example: learning one unit of brain complexity requires the addition of another unit of brain complexity plus its relationship with other complexes.




  • I’d argue that your mind is learning what love it at that age. However you are treated by your caretakers is what you believe is love because we are born with no definition so that we can adapt to whatever circumstances. Adopting your family’s schema on love, when you age out of that family, you’ll find yourself in a similar situation.

    As evidence, most adults in abusive relationships were abused as children. People often ask why adults stay in abusive relationships that are clearly terrible from the outside expecting practical reasons, like finances or kids. In reality, the victim will likely fall into another abusive relationship if they left because that’s what they think love is. Adults that were raised in non-abusive households would have left at the first red flags, whereas the adults raised in abusive households would find those red flags as signs they are loved. To them, they’re not red flags; they’re green flags. It isn’t after a string of these relationships or a really bad one that they seek help to change this pattern. The path is hard and burdensome because they have to tear down what they unconsciously learned and re-raise themselves without the guidance of a parent.

    Same thing happens with the abusers, but they took on the identity of the abusive parent. They feel that love is allowing them to control and devalue their partner by whatever means. These people have much less chance of recovery because they don’t see a reason to change. If their relationships fail, then in their mind, it’s the victim’s fault. The abuser’s only lessons are how to change their abuse strategies so that victims don’t leave.

    In conclusion, it’s not only that the child can’t leave. It’s that they’re completing a major developmental stage: learning what love is. They have no other options because we are designed that way.










  • Same! I looked into it myself, and it’s nearly impossible to pull off. Since I have no experience sailing, it would take me at least 2 yrs of training. I’d have to start off by volunteering as a hand on someone else’s sailboat. I’d also have to get a dingy to practice on.

    Eventually, I’d need to find a reliable person that would also like to try this adventure out, is dedicated enough to develop the skills necessary, has the financial means to pull it off, and isn’t tied down by other responsibilities (eg house, family, etc.). We’d also need to get along extraordinarily well since we’ll be together for ~2 yrs in a small space and deciding where to go and what to do jointly.

    Then, we’d need to drop ~$80k on a sailboat and another ~$20k on renovating it. Once that’s completed, we’d have to take a few shorter trips to test it out, such as sailing around the Caribbean.

    Lastly, once underway, things could still get pretty bad. Mechanical issues aside, we’d have to worry about safety out in the open ocean. There could be violent assailants or storms. There could also be political unrest of unwelcoming area where we dock and resupply.

    Basically, this adventure is really difficult to pull off because it’s not just sailing and living on a boat. There’s a lot more to consider.