Ok, I have no idea why this bothers me and I don’t even know what to call it. My husband is a “come here” guy. Something he thinks is interesting and wants to show me - hey, come here! Nuclear apocalypse - hey, come here! Why the hell wont he just tell me why he wants me to get up, trudge to wherever he is, so that he can reveal the surprise like some sort of performative art ? I never know if it’s going to be legitimate, a disaster, or something stupid. The walk to wherever he is is insanely stressful because the whole time I’m running through all possible horrible scenarios (we’ve had a lot of issues at the house lately so I never know if I’m going to find water in the basement or raccoons in the attic or a hole in my foundation, or just him looking at a funny cat video). I’d rather he say “hey, babe, something is happening wherever/whatever, come see this.” Instead I have to have the whole performance and reveal and I fucking hate it. Anyone else know what I’m talking about or am I just mental ?
your post has just illustrated to me how blissfully uncommon it is that anyone ever tells me to “come here”.
I can’t tell you the last time someone said it. I’m sure it’s not super long ago but I don’t remember a specific circumstance.
There have been differently phrased instances, though:
“hey, can you have a look at this for me please?”
or
“i’d like to show you something”
or
“i need your help with something”
or
“i want to go over something with you when you get a chance” while implying by nodding toward the hallway out of earshot from the others in the office
etc.
…
jordan howlett does it on his youtube shorts though i guess? but that’s not to ME, that’s to the whole audience. and he zooms in with his phone camera. freaking love that guy.