I’ll start: if they have hobbies it’s a green flag for sure, doubly so if their hobbies are outlets for creativity.
Green flags:
Their smile.
Their obvious kindness.
Their big heart.
They make you laugh.
They drive.
They ask you to drive.
They have friends that you like.
Your friends like them.
They read novels.
The play a musical instrument.
They speak another language.
They can ride a bike faster than you can and you think you’re kind of hot shot about that.
They openly tell you that some of your habits are unsavory. You know they are. How courageous of them to mention it.
They like you anyway.
They can make chocolate chip cookies from memory and do like for no reason.
You like their family.
They don’t like your family but then again neither do you.
34 years later the two of you not only love one another but find things to like about one another every single day.
They have emotional support. It can be friends, therapy, groups, or bare minimum some personal resources that they can access if things get rough. It’s impossible to be someone’s only support. They will drag you down with them.
To add to that- they have a positive and receptive view of therapy.
I don’t know how to answer this properly, I’ve only had 3 serious/long term girlfriends and I married the 3rd nearly 20yrs ago.
I’d have to say being down to earth, farting on the 3rd date and just laughing about it.
She’s always been my best friend, one of my dickhead mates I can let my hair down around and be myself, all day, every day.
She laughs whenever the dogs fart, which seems to happen a lot when I’m home.
I don’t get why is farting in front of others THE sign of a great relatioinship? I’ve been thogether with my SO for 4 years and we still don’t do that, out of respect, I suppose.
Normal bodily function.
They have friends who are not the same gender/sexual orientation as they are.
The read for pleasure.
I had two friends who used to frequent what was said to be the local debate club. It was the only thing they had in common when they first met, now they’re married. People often see what seems like a complete lack of consensus (for a lack of a better word) between them and they think “wow, are they really going to survive the New Year”. But they show a huge green flag isn’t how synchronized two people are but rather how accepting one is to a shortage of synchronization. There are people who don’t realize this and one issue ruins everything.
Being nice to waitstaff/receptionists/cashiers/etc, even if there’s an issue.
You can be annoyed at the situation, sure. But being nice to the employee shows you know that 99% of the time the problem is not their fault and 100% of the time yelling won’t solve anything.
1. The person says “I don’t know” fairly often. It shows that the person is not quick to draw conclusions, based on little to no information; this is gold, it means avoiding a lot of personal drama where they could blame you for things that they assume that you did.
2. They’re generally on the same page about common acquaintances as you.
“Hey hon, what do you want for dinner?”
I don’t know.
“Well, should we go out or cook?”
I don’t know.
“Did you know you’re annoying as fuck?”
I don’t know.
That’s different. I’m talking about avoiding to rush towards certainty, not lack of opinion/preference.
That said, “I don’t know… it’s too late to buy groceries, but we got a frozen lasagna, there are some vegs in the fridge, and I could whip some if you want. What do you want?” sounds perfect for me. So the issue here isn’t the “I don’t know”, it’s the lack of input.
[Dunno if you were speaking seriously or joking. If joking, sorry for the serious answer.]
Leftist political ideals, people who like cats, having similar sense of humor to me
Liking cats can be a good indicator on how they understand and see consent. 👍
Interesting thought, but I wouldn’t say these are dependent on each other at all.
I don’t see the connection
Neither does the cat IMO 😹
A dog will behave the same to interactions, that it doesn’t like, as cats: Leaving, telling (with their respective sounds), scratching, biting. Change cats in your sentence to any animal that is able to interact with humans (fish is difficult for example) and I would agree.
Liking cats and dogs are not mutually exclusive what’s everyone on about?
I don’t see the connection
My hobbies are crime
For me: good critical thinking skills, empathy, in touch with their emotions and loves reading books.
That comes to mind now:
- Tries not to argue and start fights but rather tries to understand and cooperate with constructive criticism
- Speaks up her mind if something is on the matter that has anything to do with me
- Loves cuddling and sex
- Enjoys at least some of the things I do and joins in
- Shares at least some of the things she does
- Offers support when wished for/needed
The same things I either do already or try to do.
Compatibility:
- Political Leaning
- Individuals Rights
- Children
- truthfulness/openness
If any of those don’t look solid green to you out of the gate, it’s an absolute no-go. They don’t have to be one way or another, but if you can’t openly and comfortably agree on those things, you’re pretty screwed eventually.
Saudi Arabia flag holder?
Otherwise you feel comfortable to talk about anything that bothers you with them.
Thank you. This is the positive mindset I needed.
