Work hard, show up and you will get a pay raise, you will get promoted.
Yeah no didn’t work that way.
You want a pay raise, find a new job.
I count myself lucky to have received raises at my job (dispatching for a towing company)
I started at 13.25/hr in May 2018, and my most recent raise in May 2023 for my 5 year review I’m up to $20.00/hr
But I had to ASK every time. It will never be handed to you freely. You should always be looking for another job, and jump ship if you don’t get a raise you honestly believed you earned.
It can be monumentally difficult for one to know one’s own worth. I recommend checking the United States government’s bureau of labor statistics Occupational Outlook Handbook and try to find your job position in there to get a baseline.
It’s good to know what the stats are, both nationally and in your locality if the info is available, so you can reference it both in performance reviews and when job searching.
I’ve been consistently getting raises since I joined the IT company I work for in 2017. I have a friend who just got hired with them for the THIRD time after jumping to other jobs to get salary bumps.
He was making more than me when he started. He makes less than me now.
Showing up and doing your job just isn’t enough. You have to have presence. You have to make yourself known. Know what you’re worth. And most importantly, you have to advocate for yourself.
I feel like telling your boss what you did/ worked on makes you present. Just showing up, doing work and leaving doesn’t help
It’s all anecdotes but I’ve found that jumping has raised me incrementally, but I’ve never had a job I’ve truly mastered, nor have I had a job where they rewarded longevity.
So those two variables mean it’s continuously adapting and learning but not mastering anything yet (in order to grow and survive)
Yep, never gotten a raise that was more than a COL adjustment (and in most cases that was only because the employer was legally obliged to).
I’ve been promoted to take on more responsibility, but pay was never reflective of that. The new job title is basically what allows you to get the higher pay at the next job.
And your replacement probably got paid more than you so that could have just given you the raise and avoided the loss of institutional knowledge, but nah.
That’s likely more accurate than not. The road to better pay increases across the board is sadly often paved with bitter workers who left for greener pastures.
But that leverage is more worker-centric at higher compensation levels. If you have hard-to-find talent you gain leverage in your ability to advocate for what you want/need.
The trick is finding jobs that synergize to an broader overall industry. If you’re moving every 3yrs or so that’s plenty of time to learn many of the specifics of the job and markets you’re in. You treat each job as a training assignment for becoming an expert in the field.
For example
If you start out marketing for a pharmeceutical company You’re next move could be marketing for a bio-pharma company After that you move to marketing for phjarmaceutical ingredients After that you move to marketing for a drug delivery devices Then you can go to medical devices materials
NOW YOU ARE A MARKETING EXPERT IN HEALTHCARE
“You need to know how to do this, you won’t always have a calculator on you.”
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I think the problem is it’s taught in a really bad way.
I remember having to do all sorts of trigonometry stuff, but I don’t think anybody ever explained why this would be useful.
I wonder if they still say that.
Only bad teachers have ever said that. But I doubt they do now that everyone has a calculator on their phone.
I’ve heard the “won’t always have a calculator” line, but more impressive was the one time our math teacher demonstrated the ability to solve the problem on the blackboard faster than we could whip out our calculators and punch in the numbers.
She showed her work, too.
From family members now in elementary/middle school, yeah they still do. Or they use brain training as an excuse.
“Join Lemmy”
“Trust me”
“How many times have I been wrong 😏.”
My brother and i roll our eyes every time we hear this line in a movie.
You just have to trust me!
Like just take a fraction of the time you are spending trying to get people to just trust you and just fucking tell people the situation. Its so dumb when you start seeing this shit in everything.
But then im getting old now so ive seen this trope waaaay to much already. Le sigh
Peel your scabs off so you don’t get a scar.
Wait, I was told not to pull off scabs so they don’t scar.
That’s the point, it was bad advice
I think they actually do pull the scabs off for burn victims? I heard it’s one of the worst parts about burn recovery.
Debriding a wound isn’t quite the same as peeling off a scab. Worse, actually, as they’re removing foreign objects and dead tissue mostly by wiping it away. This does prevent as much scar tissue from forming but is mostly to protect from infection and promote the remaining healthy tissue’s growth.
Source: not a doctor, our son was hit by a car and we had to do this for the abrasions. First at the wound treatment clinic but then again later at home.
Dating advice from older men in general. The shit they got away with was wild
The amount of “I just kept asking her and she finally relented!” With the wife giving a forced smile standing beside him is too damn high
For real! I work in the medical field and the amount of times I’ve heard some geriatric casually say he harassed a woman into marrying him is too damn high
Suddenly those boomer memes about the wife and husband hating each other make a lot more sense.
You know what else is too damn high? Rent
I’d vote for that guy’s mustache
“Get pregnant. It will fix your endometriosis.” My boss, who was tired of me calling out due to pain.
Advice I did not take because that’s not how that works.
I read my favorite response to that “advice” a few years ago on Reddit.
Act like it’s good advice that you’ve never heard before … then ask how long you have to stay pregnant to “fix your endometriosis” before getting an abortion. “Is this a first trimester or a late term deal?”
“You can always count on family.”
Did Dom tell you that?
Any of them that’s vague but of course it’s dependent on context.
The ‘be yourself’ one bothers me the most. There’s parts of myself that I don’t like, why would I want to get cozy with it?
Oh and especially “do what makes you happy”. I’m sorry but I deal with suicide on a semi-regular basis and what if one day I decide I want to go and I feel that is what will make me happy in that mindframe. Would that be okay? No it wouldn’t.
You can make “willing to change and improve” part of who you are. I think far too many people interpret “be yourself” as “never change, improve, or self-reflect”, when it should really mean something more like “don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t”. Any changes you make should be sincere. Being yourself doesn’t have to mean being stagnant.
Yeah, ‘be yourself’ is really more ‘accept yourself, be true to it, and strive to be better where you falter’
Know the parts of yourself to keep to yourself is pretty valuable advice. I think “Be Yourself” is better described as “Be yourself- except for that, and that, and that, oh and probably keep that shit to yourself bro- that’s fucked up.”
You look weak. I recommend that you drink 36% cream. It will give you energy and you won’t need that ‘exercise’ nonsense.
What moron told you that?
i shudder to imagine how that person looks
Just wait, the right person will come along.
Turns out that doesn’t work for guys.
Yeah, we have to put in extra effort.
Yep. Grew up in a house full of women, so I heard this a lot. Also, “the right person comes when you’re not looking,” so I never looked. Terrible advice.
Yeah I’m finding that piece of advice is worthless. I say, just look over your shoulder once in a while, but never not go looking at all. Some of the best people I’ve dated was because I just simply glanced over, but I can’t say any of them we’re ‘the right ones’ because they happened to be because I wasn’t looking.
Get married when you’re young, so you have time to get divorced and married again.
Incredible. What’s the context for when this was offered as advice?
Just random.
“YOLO”
I mean, it’s kind of true. That’s why you should be careful, because of you get killed or badly injured, there no second try.
“Join the army, you’ll give your new wife and unborn son a future.”
“Don’t worry about a thing, 'cos every little thing is gonna be alright”
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=NELO1PGRjJ4
“Evything’s gonna be just fine” -Spud
