Y’all is the opposite of offensive for trans people. I lived in the south for a while, and I now use y’all specifically to be inclusive. I wouldn’t say “you guys” is offensive to trans women, but I would say for me and likely other trans women it briefly brings to mind being misgendered in the past, so I would call it a small kindness to ube as gender neutral as possible.

Corridor crew should do a vfx artists react video for this movie!

I tried running a matrix server last year. I guess I will try again and see if a normie like me can make it somewhat usable.

You actually can visit Canada as a US citizen with just a passport. So in an emergency, I could cross over in a rush. But mostly I am worried that Trump will say you can’t change your gender marker on passports. So I’m preempting that with this passport application.

We… don’t? Have you not been watching American news for the last… 9 years? I don’t speak with my family because me being trans is not fully accepted by them. I don’t really want to associate with anyone who is okay with increasing trans suicides via politics. I moved from North Carolina to Oregon to be in a queer friendly state, and I don’t regret it one bit. And I have an appointment to get my passport tomorrow… just in case. I don’t know if this country can be fixed. People talk about getting along with our neighbors or meeting in the middle, but I don’t know how to get along with people who wish I didn’t exist.

Lol. For kids I won’t self host, I’ll pay for someone else to host

I’m a woman who does some self hosting. Hi.

Okay, we’ll I’ve been using vaultwarden. When should I switch to something new, and what’s a good alternative?

Voting is only done by mail in Oregon. I love it!

The moderator are giving Trump so much time. They won’t control him at all.

It’s on YouTube, on abc’s news live video. It’s still going on, but is probably almost over

Just like last time I will be holding my breath from November 5 till January 20.

I’m not sure you’re thinking of this in the most helpful way. A lot of times we are attracted to the kind of people that make us feel comfortable, and what makes us feel comfortable is what we have experience with. So for example if we have a toxic relationship with our parents, or with a first relationship, often we become attracted to people who embody similar toxicity. So its likely not that you are unattractive, but instead need to rethink why you have been attracted to the people who cheated on you. Maybe they all have attributes in common? Anyway, being cheated on sucks, and I’m sorry you have to deal with that.

Fruits have plenty of fiber, which helps increase satiety, which is what’s important here. Also check the difference between a candy bar and a piece of friut, and then think about which fills you up better with fewer calories. Density matters too, it’s much easier to snarf down a bunch of candy than to eat the same caloric value in fruit.

I’m with you. I meditate and I have aphantasia. I focus on my breath mostly, but as someone with adhd, my brain goes everywhere. The key is to not scold your brain for losing focus, but instead once you realize, note that you lost focus, and then gently bring your attention back to the breath. Meditation doesn’t have to have an end goal or a focus point or imagery or anything, really. I just like to take note of how my body is feeling, what my mind is thinking, emotions that come up, etc.

I made it about this far as well. The thing that frustrated me the most was that early in the series they had to get from one place to another quickly, and they used that extra dimensional underground path or whatever, and they were like “oooooo, this is super dangerous, someone could definitely die!” and then later in the series it was just like, “yeah, we gotta take this route, nbd.” So the stakes just felt really low and overall things got repetitive.

I’ve contributed a little, but its a bit discouraging. It’s not like can just map the whole city myself

There are no street numbers in osm for my city, Bend, OR. It has a population of 100,000+, so I’m guessing this app is really only useable for major cities.

I don’t know that you are actually asking the question that you want an answer to. So here’s an answer: it’s okay for each of you to take the amount of time that you are taking to recover. But it also sounds like you both may not be understanding each other’s feelings or feeling like your feelings are being understood. Couples therapy might be helpful. I also recommend “Non violent communication” by Marshall Rosenberg. It’s essentially an extension of the therapisty thing of using “I feel” language.

Ha! My great grandma beat yours! She was born in 1898 and died in 2002!